Conflict is something that affects all of us. It’s exhausting to deal with and the source of many of our problems. Alberts (2009) explains that although conflict is uncomfortable it can be valuable. Understanding how and why it occurs in our many relationships can give us insights into ourselves and the nature of those relationships, as well as into the strategies and tactics for surviving conflict and, perhaps, turning conflict into a fruitful endeavor. This seems impossible most of the time. However, if you consider that conflict is a process it might help you. Alberts suggests that there are five stages: discussion, polarization, segregation, survival and power. When you’re in a conflict, so things down a bit and let the process unfold at a natural pace. Develop your awareness of what is going on around you and what is happening to you. Guide the confict with it’s many emotional twists and turns as a process. In that way the potential remains open to a positive outcome.
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I’ve heard it said that when one door closes another one opens. That’s a scary yet hopeful thought for those who’ve lost their jobs in the past year. I wonder about all those folks who are working in jobs that they don’t like? Would it be possible to close a door in order to open another one? There are lots of books out there on opening your own door, building your own door, decorating your own door, but enough about the door! Everyone wants a door to open-it’s polite, civilized, mannerly, and it’s how it should be done. But the one key step to getting a door opened is to knock. If you want to try a new door or you need a new door to open then start knocking! Don’t get discouraged, don’t think, don’t hesitate, just start knocking. When a door opens (remember how this feels) be gracious, be professional, be your best. A door will open and you will be welcomed in.
We have all experienced adversity. That state, condition, or instance of serious or continued difficulty. Adversity is never easy and rarely fun. I have found that when facing adversity in the workplace, it’s time to renew your efforts and focus on your work. To renew is to restore freshness or vigor. It’s also about focusing on doing good work. Deliver the best product/service possible in the face of adversity. It is during this time that the insights gained and the lessons learned are the most valuable. Victory will be that much sweeter.