Conflict is something that affects all of us. It’s exhausting to deal with and the source of many of our problems. Alberts (2009) explains that although conflict is uncomfortable it can be valuable. Understanding how and why it occurs in our many relationships can give us insights into ourselves and the nature of those relationships, as well as into the strategies and tactics for surviving conflict and, perhaps, turning conflict into a fruitful endeavor. This seems impossible most of the time. However, if you consider that conflict is a process it might help you. Alberts suggests that there are five stages: discussion, polarization, segregation, survival and power. When you’re in a conflict, so things down a bit and let the process unfold at a natural pace. Develop your awareness of what is going on around you and what is happening to you. Guide the confict with it’s many emotional twists and turns as a process. In that way the potential remains open to a positive outcome.